Lessons of Light

Aloha!

Today I am pondering all of the connections I have ever made with another human and how it has shaped my personal experience. When we share our feelings with others we often feel challenged to find the words to say to accurately describe what it is we are feeling. Unless there has been much practice in our diction, words can often be mistaken for a meaning that was not intended.

Our deepest relationship; mother, father, partner, etc; have the power to significantly alter our conscious thought to convey to the person with which we are speaking. The ultimate reason is because we care for the other person. Unfortunately, unless we have bared all of our feelings; the good, the bad, and the ugly, the people we care for and whom care for us cannot know how to soothe our aching heart when there is an issue.

There are people out there who may be sensitive to others feelings but no one can really read the EXACT train of thought in your head. It has been said many times and will be said again; think before you speak if you are unsure of the affect on the other person. There are many ways to say things openly and honestly with KIND words to say everything needed. Name calling, foul language, and hostile tones of voice can completely steer what could be a transforming conversation into the toilet.

If you care about the person you are speaking with, or even if you are presntly having a very hard time caring for that person, remember that they have feelings too. I am not saying one should candy coat the conversation, only to consider your word choice and the way the words are delivered. Creating a space where you open your heart and mind to truly connect with another person and share honestly can be a very strengthening experience. At times there are very hard things to say, yet when we say; "This is very difficult for me to speak with you about but I choose to be honest about ......." it sounds a lot better than " I really didn't want to tell you this.....".

It is OK to take a few minutes before a conversation and take a few deep breathes to clear our heart and mind. Taking these few extra moments to sort out your thoughts and align yourself with a truly happy opening of your heart can change the result of your relationships. This simple method of gathering yourself can direct your life in new ways. As well as remembering no one likes to be called foul names or have negative energy directed at them.

It makes us feel small, weak, and tumultuous when we are confronted with negativity. If you want positive results, be positive:)

It does take us time to break our negative habits in a world filled with confusing choices and changes. You are not alone in your feeling of lonliness because the people you aren't truly opening up to that you care about are being cheated of the whole you. If you can't talk to the people you love then you must question why, in reality, there is nothing we should feel that we need to hide. Part of the reward is getting to remind yourself that every postive step you take and choice you make is exactly that- a reward!

Happy Aloha Saturday!
R